Proverbs 5:16 Should your fountains be dispersed abroad, streams of water in the streets? 17 Let them be only your own, and not for strangers with you. 18 Let your fountain be blessed, and rejoice with the wife of your youth.
Have you experienced any of these?
Irony: Men peak at 18, women peak at 40 or 50. Then men peek at younger women.
I Do: Some people think romance is for the ad campaign. Buyer beware, amnesia comes at the altar.
Dangerous: Motherhood turns a woman into a mother. Beautiful when she’s caring for her child. Not so attractive when she’s mothering her man.
Relationships, especially marriage, are God’s university. The patience it takes to survive 1, 7, 15, or 25 years with someone so different takes both small and large miracles. Lots of them. But in the process we are changed. We gain, lose and gain interest. We feel special, ignored, bored and frustrated, but one day we are one. We grow to understand the unconditional love our Savior has for us, as we grit our teeth and unconditionally love each other.
If you are tempted by another life, a face that lights up when you’re around or a body that just won’t quit…Don’t quit. Sometimes we’re just messing with fire unnecessarily. Other times, temptation is an alert that we need to treat our mate with the same consideration that made that other face light up. Another life might look like a better fit, but God is not ignorant or mean—He knows what we need, and there is joy in store if we’re willing to walk with integrity. Besides, it’s not always about you, but blessings will be yours. The One who created the Aurora Borealis is capable of recreating your relationship. Give Him a chance, and get a godly counselor.
One caveat: If you’re being abused, GO. But don’t sin on your way out. Keep your integrity and do it right. If you need help to get away, there are knights in shining armor that won’t tarnish you. Click here.
Lord, You know what our mates are like—You made them. Love can be soooo confusing, and being in love is just about the best feeling in the world. Touch our lives, our hearts, our mates. Remove us from situations we aren’t strong enough to walk away from, and carry us into the years of deep love and partnership that keeps people saying “I do” even in today’s broken world. We commit for the rest of this month to concentrate on what You are doing inside our own hearts and keep our noses out of what’s going on in our spouses’ hearts. Thank You, Lord, for being the giver of everything we need, including love.
Whether it’s impossible to imagine laughing together, or if you enjoy every moment with your mate, I couldn’t possibly recommend Laugh Your Way to a Better Marriage highly enough. Check it out tonight!