Prov 19:1 Better is a poor man who walks in his integrity than he who is perverse in speech and is a fool.
Perverse doesn’t mean you’re a pervert. It’s the kind of speech that twists meanings, bends facts, finds offense and hides intentions. Perhaps you’ve spent time in a family or group of friends that communicates this way. For some, it’s a matter of pride to be able to “see through” others or “put one over on them” yourself. It’s hard to identify mindsets that are deeply ingrained in us, especially if they were passed down through the generations. As you spend time in prayer and Bible study, ask the Lord to show you where your beliefs, reactions and communication style needs revision.
Speaking directly instead of talking in circles, asking if injury was intended or simply overlooking offenses—these things might be a shock to others, but like a door opening on a spring day, they let in fresh air and give people the freedom to be real. Pretty soon you have a whole new level of friendship. Treating people like what they say is what they mean feels risky. Learning to speak honestly but tactfully takes practice. You might get some pushback, but remember Who has your back.
Lord, thank You for being patient and for giving us little quirks that make us interesting. Work out the details inside us that we can’t see but need changing, and give us grace and favor as we practice the things we learn from You. Thanks, Lord! In Jesus’ Name, amen.